Where is it going?

The big question, isn't it? Whenever I've asked myself this question, I have kinda known the answer to it. But, if you don't have an answer to it, man, are you going to put up with a lot of crap.

In the west, this question can generally mean only one thing - a commitment/breakup with your boyfriend/girlfriend is in the offing. But, Indians are the kings of customization. We need a mix and match for everything. (Instances below)

The too-much phobia

• Son is playing too much cricket. He has to write his board exams in four years.
• Too much work/Too much fun/Too much relaxation/Too much tension/Too much travel.
• Talking too much in the phone.

The attention-seeker syndrome (I have it)

• Why no attention at all?
• Can't people just leave me alone for a minute?
• I feel like we are drifting apart. (Now, this is very common Ok. Not pin-pointing.)

The gutless phenomenon

• I don't want the others* to think that something is going on.

WHAT-THE-IF

• What if it goes somewhere I don't know where. (read again to understand)
• What if I can't answer with where I want it to go. (again, read again to understand)

From all that I have understood, it is a question

• that you should never ask yourself when you don't want to.
• that you should never let someone irrelevant, answer (and bother).
• that you should never answer when someone irrelevant asks.
• that you should always answer aloud (to the relevant).
• that you should always ask yourself first (and try to answer) before a second opinion.
• that can work wonders when found an answer to (both ways).
• that also affects people (or surroundings) other than you.
• that guys TRY TO AVOID and girls are OBSESSED with (generally).
• that guys DON'T CARE when they don't have an answer.
• that girls answer with ALOOF when they don't want to pick an answer.
• that you SHOULD find an answer when there are too many options.

and the most important one...

• that is IRRELEVANT when you don't have a choice.

*others - anyone/anything that is not a stakeholder of which is going where, except for gossiping about it.